Creating a Support System for Postpartum Care

 

Postpartum support system for new parents.

You’re expecting a baby. The nursery is ready and stocked, your family is ready, the equipment (car seat, stroller etc.) is ready and waiting, the birth plan is planned and you, yourself are mentally prepared. But, do you have your support system all set up? Your support system is an important part of caring for baby once you’re home from the hospital. And figuring out who is going to be a part of that system needs to be established before birth.

Think of it as a circle of support with different rings to the circle. The inner ring is your closet ring and it would contain people you’re really close with, your partner, your parents, your best friends. Next is the almost inner ring, people you are also close to, friends, coworkers. Then your outer ring, people you are close to but may be far away geographically. These people could offer phone or online support. And last is the outer, outer ring which might consist of coworkers, your boss, your doctors. Of course, you can choose what circle you consider your doctor to be a part of.

Your inner ring, or circle are the people who will physically help you, cook you meals, help with the baby, and let you get some sleep. Your outer circle are the people who will answer questions or give advice. Of course, the inner circle will help you with that as well.

Consider me a part of your outer circle, I’m here to answer questions! Speaking of, where does a postpartum doula fall into these rings? They can go wherever you want them to. A virtual doula, such as myself gives advice and answers questions. An in person birth doula gives physical help during birth plus advice and answers. And an in person postpartum doula gives physical help after you are home plus advice and answers. You choose how much help you want and need.

No matter if you are a single parent, a couple having your first child, an established family bringing home a new member, or even if you are adopting, set yourself up with some help. Very few people have it all figured out when it comes to caring for a newborn so adding some seasoned parents to the list is a great start. Grandparents, aunts or uncles with kids, and friends with kids are a great idea. There’s nothing wrong with going to them for advice or help.